Domestic Violence

We can work with you to overcome abuse or stop abusing others.

Domestic Violence is about doing what you can to have control over another and your world because you think you are always right, or you feel you are not good enough.

A perpetrator is defined as a person who carries out a harmful, illegal, or immoral act.

Whereas a victim is defined person harmed, injured, or killed because of a crime, accident, or other event or action

Being a victim is not an easy thing to admit, but what is important to remember in domestic abuse relationships, you rarely can know it is happening. Perpetrators can feel they are the victim, as the world is not going in a way they would like it to, or that another triggers their abuse by doing something they do not agree with because it makes them feel uncomfortable.

Domestic violence /abuse is rarely about hitting your partner, although it is still a significant factor!

How abuse can be used

Minimising, Denying, and Blaming

Making light of the abuse and not taking concerns seriously, Saying it didn’t happen, and Shifting responsibility onto others.

Psychological/ Emotional abuse

Making them feel emotional dependant on you and scared of your actions, denying things happened, and using their feeling against them.

Physical or Sexual abuse

Physically hurting them, demanding sex, and making them have or be sexual against their will.

Harassment and Stalking

Constantly texting, calling or following your partner because you are scared they will cheat or leave you

Using Coercion and Threats

Making and/or carrying out threats to do things to hurt them. Threatening to leave them, to commit suicide to report to social services.

Isolation

Controlling what they do, whom they talk to, see and read where ever they go,

Limits outside involvement, Using jealousy as a justification.

Using Financial / Economic abuse

Making the ask for money, not letting them see family income, not letting them keep a job.

Using Gender privilege

Defining gender roles in the relationship, believing you are right to say who does what and how things should be done. disregarding the other person's rights or views.

How we work with you

We work with you to fully understand the extent of the abuse, how it can happen and the reasons you can struggle to understand or feel confident in overcoming it.

It is paramount for us that you never feel judged.

Victim / Survivor

We will work with you to feel empowered again, helping you to find confidence and care for yourself. Abuse strips you away and you can feel like you are not worth saving or that you caused it.

No one deserves to be abused!

We give you lots of time and space, as it is important you regain control of your life again.

Abusers

We work with you to acknowledge and take responsibility for your actions. Helping you find the reasons why you abuse and overcome feelings you struggle to hold and handle.

This could be anger, paranoia, abandonment, or fear of being seen and out of control, it could also be from your childhood. having been subject to or witnessed abuse.